Part II: Breaking Free from the Victim Trap

Following is an quotation from the second edition, fifth printing (2004) of the volume Breaking Free from the Victim Trap. The quotation is Part II of the work chapters 11 through 16.

Part II

Treatment: Turning the Victim Triangle into a Circle of Power from one side Personal Transformation

What is the Personal Transformation Process?

I am certain that as you read this volume one main question will be going from one side your mind: "How do I change these victim patterns in my life?" one time you become aware of the patterns, they may strike one as being to be so pervasive that you have feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of changing them.

The beneficial news is that they can be changed, and in the nearest chapters I will identify how

Awareness is the greatest in quantity important aid to change. by dint of reading this book, you have become aware of victim situations that exist in your life and in your family. As these general [i]or[/i] abstract notions become more and more clear to you, you will be able to identify what straits to be changed. Perhaps through reading this book you are becoming aware of your addictions and by what mode they render you helpless--and therefore a victim. Perhaps you have become aware that you confuse delight in with pity, and have exhausted much of your life attempting to elicit pity from those around you. Your awareness is the first pace in making changes in your life.

The nearest important factor in changing your life is absolute dedication to the proces of change. Millions of tribe read self-help books every day. They begin to recognize their moot points and unhealthy patterns through their reading. For a short time they perceive excited, because the lightbulb of awareness is flashing brightly in their minds. on the other hand seldom does simply reading a work make any genuine or long-lasting changes in a person's life patterns. Their habits, reactions, and underlying beliefs are profoundly entrenched. It would be like having a deep impacted tooth, and merely putting a certain quantity of Novocaine into it, thinking that the question is solved.

with equal reason when I talk about dedication to the proces of change in your life, I mean absolute dedication. This must become the greatest in quantity important thing in your life, because it is really what your life is all about. If you are not healthy in your mind, material substance or spirit, what else could be more important to you than healing yourself?. If you are not in superintendence of your life and your relationships are not working, then what could be a higher priority to disburse energy and money on? Nothing! You merit to reach your highest potential as a human being. The sole way to achieve that is to gage your dedication to yourself and your personal transformation process

Many times it begins as a come of midlife crisis, a time when you begin taking stock of just where your life is going. "Crisis" is not the best description of this time; I diocese it as "mid-life transformation." It may be station off by a divorce, los of a piece of work or any other radical shift in your faculty of perception of security. It is a time when you know that there has to be more to life than what you have experienced with equal reason far. It is a realization that what you have been doing in your life isn't working, on the other hand at the same time you don't know where to proceed from here. The transformation proces is born without of a massive state of mental confusion, emotional pain and/or physical disease.

If this description fits you in any way, then it is time for you to consider dedicating yourself to transforming your life. The first pace is to declare your intention to your transformation proces The next to the first step is to realize that plane though you may be in excruciating pain right now, you have hit bottom and the solitary way to go is up If you're not in pain, on the contrary just vaguely dissatisfied, you may still have to make progress through pain, fear, or anger to secure to the other side of the transformation, and experience real joy

tribe who are vaguely dissatisfied usually use medicines alcohol, tobacco, food, sex, or television to anesthetize themselves from the feelings of emptiness that may be underlying their lives. When you begin your proces you must obtain the addictions and drugs on the outside of your life or your efforts are useless. That may have feeling like an impossible task to you, with equal reason the next step is to find the appropriate transformational therapist or program to work with.

Finding the right therapist or program might look difficult to you, since you don't know what you want, where you're going, or in what way to get there. I will share with you my techniques, the programs I am aware of and what the proces and consequence might look like. Then you will use visualization, affirmations, and the phone volume to find your teacher or therapist.

Chapter 11

in what manner Hypnosis Works in Treatment

First allow me de-mystify hypnosis for those of you who have not had an experience of hypnotherapy or any professional training in the field. There are sum of two units parts of the mind: the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious part of the mind, that part that thinks and analyzes, is solitary ten percent of the total mind. When you are in greatest in quantity traditional counseling settings with a psychologist, psychiatrist, marriage counselor, or mental health worker, the conscious mind is basically what you are dealing with. Any stamp of "talk therapy" uses the conscious mind to analyze, "figure it all out" or intellectualize the problem